Losing Friends After Having a Child?

Ok, so I am now starting to understand this phenomena. Before becoming a mom, I always thought that it was some sort of a misunderstanding. They didn’t have kids, you did. They wanted to party still…you couldn’t, etc etc. Well yesterday, my eyes were seriously opened.
One of my good friends asked me if I was ignoring her. Of course not! This did get me to thinking though. When was the last time I saw her…a month ago…maybe. Then it hit me! I figured it out. It’s not that I’m losing friends…I’m losing everything. Last I remember it was Nov 16th…the day I returned to work. Wait. Seriously. That was almost 2 months ago?  What has happened to the last 2 months? I think that was also the last time we went to the grocery store …hmm this is all making sense now. I’m not a bad friend…I’m just losing my mind. Is that better?
When was the last time I did anything?
Whew! At least it’s not my fault! It’s because I am a mom… I have so much going on…
Or so that’s what I was thinking…Then this morning another revelation hit me. When was the last time I did anything with anyone without them asking me to? Oh no, I’m think I am going to learn something painful here.
I literally cannot remember the last time I did something with one of my friends without them having to prompt me. Oh dear, it is my fault. Then it all hits me like a ton of bricks…
I hate when I have to learn something that is common sense and I already knew.
I have to put effort into my friendships. (Wha?) That’s how I keep them. My friends deserve more than my half-hearted effort. So now, I am going to make an effort, show my friends that I am their friend too, or at least try really hard to…

So what did I learn a year later? Click here to find out.