Every parent has a different style. Every parent has their reasons and their inspiration.
My inspiration in parenting comes from my faith. Yes, some of it from my parents but mostly from my belief in a higher right and wrong.
I believe that people are fallible and flawed. I do not believe there is a perfect parent. I try and will continue to try to minimize the mistakes that I make, but sadly I am aware that I cannot help them all.
I believe there is only one perfect. I intend to teach my children right from wrong, but not an ever changing or relative version of right from wrong.
When I was interviewing for my last position one question stood out for me. I was asked how my work should be judged against the work of my peers. What an interesting question. Without hesitation I answered that it should not be judged against my peers. The interviewer had quite a shocked look. I went on to explain that my work should be judged against a higher, impartial standard, a benchmark so to speak. I don’t believe that my work should be considered good only because everyone else’s was worse. This is the foundation for my parenting. The challenge for me will be to balance this with compassion.
Compassion for others is another part of the foundation of my faith and in turn, my parenting. My grandmother always said to me, “treat others as you would want to be treated.” This is a good way to teach compassion, but at the same time I want to teach my son to treat others as God treats him. With love, kindness, humility and forgiveness when necessary. Remembering that people are flawed, so is he, and we are too.
As Little G grows up, I know that the way I teach him these truths will change, but I hope the principle does not.
How do you or will you parent and why?