In keeping with the world’s worst mother of the year feeling… I caved. It was me, all me. So I guess the title of this post should be I caved, not we.
On what you ask?
Well we had taken away the pacifier… had.
So the first night was ok. He only asked for the pacifier once. Then again the next morning and after that it was basically done with. Well except for the awful night. That aside, we were doing ok. The main problem was that G DIDN’T SLEEP. Not at night, not at naptime. He just couldn’t calm himself enough to sleep.
I looked all over the internet for help and all I found was… maybe he’s just ready to give up naps. And bedtimes??
Our child needs his naps, he is so very active and he gets dark circles under his eyes by naptime. Not to mention 10pm bedtimes were not helping this whole process.
We tried, we really did, but it was almost two weeks and still he couldn’t sleep. So yesterday at naptime I stayed in the room with him to try and help him sleep. The room was dark, light music on, we had completed our normal routine. Diaper change, book, rock, crib. I sat there for a half an hour. He tossed and flopped and tossed some more. No playing, just tossing and yawning. Then I tried rocking him some more. He yawned and yawned but still sleep would not come. At this point it had been 45 minutes. And so I caved. I gave him his pacifier and he was asleep within 10 minutes.
Some things I have learned from this.
- We let his pacifier become a sleep trigger.
- I do not feel badly about helping him to sleep.
- I do feel bad because I was the one to cave. I feel like I failed D (not G).
- Baby girl will not keep her pacifier this long.
I gave him his ortho pro pacifer (not his favorite) which is supposed to be better for his teeth, so that’s at least something.
So now what?