We’re pretty strict parents. We’re more strict than any other parents that we know. But it seems to be working out ok. G is a pretty rambunctious little man, and rules and boundaries help keep him safe and having fun.
We have had lots of people see photos of him and his crazy cute smile, or watch is tons of energy and say… “He must be a little hellion.” Well guess what folks, he isn’t! Not only do I take offense to that, but G actually listens very well. Even the daycare has commented on how well he listens compared to other children and G has LOTS of energy. He doesn’t slow down for one minute. We love all of him. Every last ounce of that crazy energy. But there is a balance to it all.
Yes we’re strict, the kind of strict that doesn’t count to 3, and doesn’t repeat warnings very much. But we know the value of leniency and breaking the rules sometimes. For example, we have a no climbing policy, but we know that he needs an outlet so we let him climb on certain things, or only when mommy or daddy are around. (You can’t stifle everything, that will come back to bite you… maybe literally).
Given G’s love of life and energy we need to be especially strict with bedtimes. (And also because of the number of family parties D has….) so when it’s bedtime, it’s bedtime. But again it’s all about balance.
Last week G was still up at 9:30, in his bed quietly playing. Which follows the rules fine. He talks to his toys and winds himself down and it gives mommy and daddy some sanity time. This particular night we heard through the monitor, “ No, no like that. Want mommy now.” He said this a few times, and definitely tugged at my heart. D didn’t think it was a good idea to go into him, but I just couldn’t help myself.
When I opened the door, he wanted to go to the couch with mommy. Not the living room (i.e. play) but the couch. So I gave in. I brought my little man out with me and snuggled during some Project Runway. And you know what? It was wonderful. He was snuggly, sweet, loving and wanted to be with me. What more could I ask for? Nothing.
My heart was full, I had some quality time with my little guy and I knew I made the right decision.
Sometimes you have to break the rules.